When I was 17 my appendix ruptured because I thought I was just having period cramps and didn’t go to the hospital so don’t tell me PMS symptoms are no big deal

this actually happened to me during my math final and i didn’t think anything of it and when i was later admitted to the hospital my math prof was asking me ‘you didn’t have to take the final! why didn’t you tell me it hurt?!?!’ and i told him i’ve had cramps worse.

he gave me 100

This is actually an extremely common occurrence simply because in sex ed they don’t teach you how to tell the difference between menstrual cramps and other more serious pains. The way to tell the difference between cramps and appendicitis is that while menstrual cramps are generalized toward the middle of the stomach below the belly button, pain from a swollen or burst appendix will start in the middle of the stomach and relocate to only the lower right side, even lower than menstrual cramps, and is a very localized pain. It also comes on extremely suddenly and will worsen over time or when you make a sudden movement, like a cough or a sneeze.

Basically, if you’re feeling any sort of pain, even if it’s menstrual cramps, don’t hesitate to tell the school nurse or a parent, or if you’re out of school and home even make a doctor’s appointment. Chances are if your cramps are that bad there’s something they can do to improve that as well.

I am boosting the shit out of that reply, because I am twenty-fucking-five years old and did not know how to tell the two pains apart

How can I learn to be less dependent? My boyfriend hasn't texted me in a day (he's really busy, in the army) but I can't help but feel like he hates me and doesn't like me anymore. Logically, I know it's not the case, but I can't help but to /feel/ that way. It sucks he hasn't replied today, yeah, but it sucks even more having the anxiety gnawing away at me. Any way to reduce it? :(

Find the source, and tackle it.

Behaviours have a source, and if you find you’re very dependent, clingy, or insecure, there’s a reason for that.

Try writing down your feelings. Spell them out. Not just once but as many times as you feel you can. Doing this can help you backtrack to your deeper feelings causing your anxiety. A bad childhood? A traumatic event? Not enough connection in your relationships in the past? Is this your first relationship? Are you actually afraid of something else?

You could try checking blogs like mentalillnessmouse or you could try this post. Even if you don’t have anxiety as an illness, they can be useful.





aside from being cissexist the whole XX = female and XY = male thing is Straight-Up Wrong

AFAB people can have XO, XXX, XXXX and XY chromosomes while AMAB people have have XXYY, XYY, and XX chromosomes and since the majority of the population never has their karyotype examined,  they’ll never know that they have one of these chromosomal quirks unless that specific combination has associated symptoms, and not all of them do. you could literally have one of the aforementioned combinations without even knowing it and meanwhile you’re insisting that all AFAB people are XX and that anyone else who has this must also be female

we could also talk about how hormonal patterns for XX persons can naturally and biologically mirror that of a typical XY person, or vis versa, which gives rise to things like androgen insensitivity disorder. here u have it, folks, an whole group of intersex people who have XY chromosomes and testicles and vulva and vagina, all grown naturally, all at the same time. 

the number of people who are intersex mirror the number of people who are born with red hair, but no one goes around trying to say that red isn’t a natural hair colour just because the phenotype doesn’t manifest in the majority of the population. 

seriously consider the bold if you are aggressively upholding the ridiculously flawed theory that is the sex and gender binary.

I am a princess



The nazi-party called “The Swedish Party” was in Malmö, Sweden today (and had a permit from the police, WTF). About 2000 people were there to peacefully let them know that they are not welcome here.

Singing and shouting, the demonstrators were loud, but as peaceful you can be when there are nazis invading our city.

The police respond by running an unarmed, non-threatening person over with a bus.

The police respond by riding over people who did nothing but try to let the nazis know that they are not welcome here. 10-15 cops on horses riding over people, continuously, over and over again.

A nazi tried to pull of a woman’s hijab, hit her, the cops saw but did nothing.

People are lying bloody on the streets, when people come over to help, the cops tell them no.

The cops have blood on their hands, and they are now, after giving the nazis a ride away from there, standing outside the emergency room to “protect people from violent activists”.

To everyone thinking Sweden is an equal country: no, it’s not. Nazis get free rides from the police after they propagate their disgusting message, and innocent people who just wants equality are being run over by the cops.

This is not the first time this happens. In the 20s, Swedish military opened fire into a group of unarmed demonstrators.

Last year, a similar thing to what happened today happened in Stockholm.

This year, at similar demonstrations, cops have been running people over, beating them with batons and arresting people for no good reason.

This spring, on international women’s day, happy demonstrators move from a peaceful and happy demonstration to a party, and on the way, several of them are stabbed by nazis. The police and media call this a “fight between different activists”, while nazis were carrying knives, and feminists were stabbed in the back and beaten up so badly that one of them had to stay in the hospital for months.

Sweden is not equal. Europe is not equal. The US isn’t equal. It isn’t peaceful. It isn’t democratic. They are taking democracy away from us. We can’t let them.





You cannot buy electronics with food stamps. You cannot buy cigarettes with food stamps. You cannot buy pet food with food stamps. You cannot withdraw money with an EBT card (food stamps).

Do you know what else you can’t buy with food stamps? Shampoo, soap, laundry detergent, toilet paper, paper towels, tissues, tinfoil, plastic sandwich bags, toothpaste, cleaning products, tampons, pads, over the counter medications (such as Tylenol, Ibuprofen, etc.), and anything else you can think of that you cannot physically ingest for nutritional purposes.

Do you know what you can buy with food stamps? Food.

Do you know what it’s like to scrounge for change to buy non-edible necessities, use a credit card and EBT card (food stamps) during the same transaction, and then have the person in line behind you judge you for buying the ingredients to make a birthday cake?

People who disseminate false information about food stamps have never had to use food stamps.

Okay, but let’s talk for a second about how that one lady called turkey “big chicken”

You can’t even buy all food with food stamps. You just… you flat-out can’t buy “food that will be eaten in the store/any food sold for on-premises consumption” or any “hot foods” with food stamps—meaning you can’t buy anything hot, you can’t buy anything that gets blended together, you can’t buy anything “pre-prepared,” in most cases you can’t use your EBT card at restaurants. You literally CANNOT purchase a milkshake with food stamps, because it’s considered “sold for on-premises consumption” (which was ridiculous at the place I worked, because the customer had to mix their own milkshake themself with a little machine we provided them, and several people got upset—rightfully so, I think—that it wasn’t covered under food stamps, because they often only found out at the register after already mixing it, often as a treat for their kids). You literally can’t walk into a gas station, grab one of those hot dogs off their grills/out of the little heated food area, and buy it with food stamps, because it’s hot.

And when I say “can’t,” I don’t mean “if the cashier notices you trying and cares enough to stop you, they’ll refuse to do it for you.” I mean “it is actually impossible to do this.” I’m not even sure these people who disseminate false information about food stamps have paid any attention at all when buying things at the store, because what happens is: We scan in the customer’s items, into our computer. The computer has specific codes for the items and rules for what it will let you pay for things with. We scan the customer’s EBT card, and it tells us exactly how much of that price total can be paid for via EBT, and it will not include anything that isn’t food, and it will not include anything considered “pre-prepared” food. It does this automatically AND THERE IS NO OVERRIDE FOR IT. If our machines say that you can’t use the EBT card to pay for something, there is literally nothing we can do to change that, even if we WANTED to.

So no. You can’t buy iPads or cigarettes with food stamps. You can’t withdraw money from casinos or anywhere else with food stamps. You can’t buy dog food with food stamps; sometimes you can’t even buy people food with food stamps. I’m not even sure if you can buy “the big chicken legs” at Disney with food stamps; remember, you can’t buy “any food sold for on-premises consumption” OR any hot foods, and that’s both.

Literally the only thing these fearmongers listed that you can actually purchase with food stamps even if you are in goddamn cahoots with the evil liberal cashier or store manager is soda, and the judgement against people buying that with food stamps is classist fuckwittery at its finest.

So, as always, Fox News is actually flat-out lying, and hateful conservatives both don’t know what they’re talking about and don’t give a fuck about people going through shit that they will never have to go through themselves, and that they in fact don’t have even the tiniest clue about (not even via five seconds’ research; a list of things that can’t be purchased with food stamps is on the Food and Nutrition Services website) but still think they should spout off about to their TV audience anyway.


so many parents of Autistic kids talk about how tragic it is that their kids won’t hug them or be affectionate but like

kids are not machines made to give you love and niceness

your kids are not responsible for making you feel loved and good about yourself. they are not supposed to be your parents they’re your kids 

Hey so I saw all of the posts and asks recently and further clarification has changed my mind on the whole sti topic and I'd also like to let you know that anon is not me and I'm sorry that you're getting that much commotion over it.

I’m glad you’ve changed your mind!

I didn’t think the anons were you, but if anyone did, well, they’re not.

Yes I get your points but my main issue isn't about them having sex with uninflected people but merely the infected person not telling their partners. I think that's what they were trying to accomplish with that law, the prevention of it spreading.

I’m not trying to argue and obviously you’re getting angry but obviously it’s not right to throw people in jail for having sex but all that person said was that it “made sense”

What about making identity of HIV+ people public knowledge?

1st Ask:

That actually isn’t what anyone is trying to accomplish with any of these laws. You would know that if you knew anything about AIDS Panic, as well as Uganda’s history.  Additionally, people have sex while carrying diseases all the time, without telling their partners. Is it fair? No. Is it gross? Yes. Is it something we should start throwing people in prison for? No, why should we? And where would it end? After all, cancer can be caused by certain STIs. And, again, what would that accomplish, except furthering the stigma against people with STIs, and promoting sex shaming? Or giving people a spear to attack former lovers and spouses with? Or giving an excuse to assault people we believe are positive for certain STIs?

2nd Ask:

You are trying to argue, or else why are you here? Also, in what way isn’t “this makes sense” a statement of support? And, if you are the same anon, you actually literally said they should be imprisoned, so, yeah.

(Also, trying to make a snipe at what you assume are my emotions doesn’t make you look better.)

3rd Ask:

…And why should we do that, exactly, especially considering the discrimination people face just for having little things like chlamydia, let alone HIV? You do realize physical violence happens just from common, treatable STI transmission?

Anon, medical records are private for a reason.

Please, take two seconds to educate yourself.

Having a disease is not a crime.

my boyfriend and I just tried having sex (it was both of our first times). I thought I was pretty wet and he had a condom, and we both decided we were ready. so once we started his penis just wouldn't go inside me. I'm not sure if it was that he just couldn't find where to put it and he was just guessing, but once I did feel it go inside me it hurt like crazy and it would only go in a little bit and we ended up having to stop because it was hurting me too much. please help, what do I do?

This isn’t so uncommon, really. Especially if you have absolutely no experience with penetration (not even with toys).

Typically the issue is that you’re not completely aroused, or aroused enough to work with. Just because you’re wet doesn’t mean you’re ready. Full arousal includes the loosening and lengthening of the vagina. So, if you try to receive him, and you find yourself having to fight with… yourself, then you may not be ready yet.

Also, you could be too nervous. Even when fully aroused, because the vagina is a muscle like any other, anxiety will cause it to seize and tighten, often making any penetration painful.

The solution to both these situations is usually more foreplay. Especially intimate foreplay - intimacy can relax the vagina and you.

Additionally, you could do penetration in steps instead. Start with fingers, and keep moving up with different (safe, sterile) objects, until you think you’re going to be good with his penis. Even after sufficient arousal and relaxation, you can still be tight because these muscles aren’t used to being exercised. For most people, this just means they’re sore after their first time or bleed a bit, but for some this can make attempts at sex uncomfortable to downright painful, so practicing beforehand can help.

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