I am in my second trimester, and I've found sex to be very uncomfortable these days. When I get on top, it helps, but I get this terrible sensation after awhile. It almost feels like a uti, kinda burns and feels like I need to pee? It's hard to describe, but it lasts for several minutes after sex and durning (plus the cramping, which I've read is normal)I don't have a uti, I just have no idea what's going on down there, any advice would be greatly appreciated. Not being intimate is killin me!
That does sounds like a vaginal infection to me. The burning is pretty consistent with either a yeast infection or bacterial vaginosis. Pregnancy hormones fuss with everything, and they also make the vaginal discharge more basic, allowing it to be more susceptible to infections. This is one reason why pregnant people end up with more vaginal infections.
Head on over to your provider and get them to do a quick check of your discharge under the microscope. If there’s something going on they’ll help you out with it.
The other thing you’re talking about is positional discomfort, and that’s pretty common during pregnancy as well. Your cervix gets flooded with blood, which is great for your pregnancy but not so great for your comfort. When something hits your cervix, like a penis or fingers or a toy, it is just more uncomfortable than normal. Nothing really to do about that except to avoid it.
The images below are taken from goodtoknow.co.uk. They are unfortunately all white, skinny, non-pregnant people, and the language on the website is incredibly gendered, as an FYI. Sorry about that. If anyone wants to a) make photos or illustration of themselves and their partners doing these positions (probably clothed is best), I would be thrilled. Over the moon. And I would get rid of all these silly illustrations below.
Some good pregnancy positions for penis/strap-on-in-vagina sex:
Now, how to apply that to fingers/hands/toys?
Try making shallow thrusts and pointing the object forward, toward the belly button. That way you put pressure on the g-spot and good stimulation to the Skene’s glands for ejaculation, and you avoid the cervix. Before inserting a toy, consider using your fingers to assess the depth and location of the cervix. Is it pointing right at you? Is it pointing to one side? Is it pointing up or down? That way you’ll know where to point the toy.
And remember - although it’s true that you don’t have to worry about getting pregnant once you’re already pregnant, you still can get STIs, so use barriers unless you both know your STI status.
I hope this helps! Have safe, comfortable sex!