Ya’ll need sailor moon

I’mma just use this photoset for basically everyone that comes to me for relationship advice. 


Lisa Simpson, The Simpsons, 1991.

Okay so when i first got my period i never ever got cramps now three years later i can barely move because of them! Do cramps eventually lessen or go away??

Cramps change throughout your life and for some people from period to period.

If cramps are so bad for you that you don’t feel you can move, you should discuss your options with a doctor. Even if they do eventually go away, that’s the future, and this is now, and right now you need to feel better.

People have been talking about an answer we’ve made and I’ve been very misunderstood. But it’s my fault for not expanding what I meant; I’ve been very busy and haven’t been able to answer some questions very thoroughly.

This is the question.

I said periods can’t be controlled. Many people have contested this, by discussing various ways you can try and how some of them have not had periods because of their birth control method.

I’ve never denied birth control can’t help with period control or eliminate periods for short or long term.

However, you can not 100% control your menstrual cycle with birth control. It is never a guarantee that what you do will cause a skipped period, or multiple ones, or the total elimination of your period. And again, this is especially true if you have just started a birth control method - your period is at its most unpredictable during this time, as well as during puberty and menopause.

The simple answer I meant to say was this: You can not guarantee control over your period and you should never believe you’re absolutely safe from any bleeding. I said this completely wrong and implied it’s impossible to ever make an intentional effect on your menstrual cycle, and that’s not true either. You can, but, it’s not a guarantee to work, or to work forever.

A side note, to those who contested with their personal experiences: birth control is a very individual experience, and while sharing stories can be helpful in some aspects, telling someone that there’s x guaranteed effect with y birth control method/pill/regimen because it happened that way to you, is not accurate.

Thank you, and I very sincerely apologize for the misunderstanding.

Is it possible to prevent the spread of HIV in your relationship?



Someone asked us:

Hi! I have a question :) So I’m wanting to start having sex with my boyfriend and well how do I say this, he has HIV and I am wondering the safest way to prevent myself from contracting it or of its even possible to prevent it? Thanks!

It’s great that your boyfriend knows his status and that you’re both thinking about protection. It’s definitely possible to prevent the spread of HIV in a relationship — you two are just going to have to be cautious, that’s all.

Let’s start with the basics: use condoms and other barriers (like rubber gloves) to prevent exposure to the three fluids that can spread HIV during sex: blood, semen and vaginal secretions. (There is a fourth fluid that can transmit HIV – breast milk – but that’s for another post.) Making sure you ALWAYS use condoms and prevent exposure to his genital fluids and blood is going to be the biggest way to reduce your risk when you two become sexually active. 

Even though you know his HIV status, you should both get tested for other STDs before you start having sex — if either of you have any undiagnosed STDs, it can increase the risk of transmitting HIV. Plus your boyfriend’s HIV is gonna make him extra vulnerable to any infections you may have, so take care of both of y’all by getting tested before you start having sex. You should actually plan to go in for HIV testing at least once a year, but possibly more often (ask your doctor what’s best for your situation). 

When you go for testing, tell them about your boyfriend’s status and ask about Pre-Exposure Prophylaxis (PrEP) and Post-Exposure Prophylaxis (PEP). PrEP is a daily pill for HIV-negative people that reduces their chances of catching HIV. PrEP should be taken as prescribed by your doctor, and used with other types of prevention like safer sex, in order to provide the best protection from HIV. PEP is a little different —it’s a month-long regimen of drugs given to people who have already been exposed to HIV.

And it’s important that your boyfriend is taking care of himself as well. Following his doctor’s orders, staying on top of his treatment, and keeping himself generally healthy will help you both.

If you’re careful, practice safer sex, and follow your doctor’s instructions, you can focus more on each other, and less on his HIV.

-Mylanie at Planned Parenthood

Are there symptoms to HIV?

It’s a bit complicated. Most STIs do not give symptoms right away, including HIV. Even then, many STIs have symptoms that mimic other issues. In HIV’s case, it most often seems like you have the flu.

Here’s a page that explains HIV symptoms.

cisnormative terminology that needs to stop



"female/male bodied": 

  • I’m a man, this is my body. It doesn’t matter what I was assigned at birth, this is my body and I am a man, and therefore this body is a man’s body, and therefore a male body
  • this is erasure of intersex people
  • this is erasure of nonbinary people
  • you don’t actually give a shit about gender, you’re asking about genitals, and unless you’re a doctor it’s none of your fucking business
  • and if you ARE a doctor, you need to figure your shit out so you don’t alienate your trans patients and make them less likely to seek medical help due to dysphoria
  • the term you’re looking for is "assigned female/male at birth" or "afab/amab"

"born a man/woman" (also "used to be a woman/man"):

  • trans people weren’t born cis people and then turned trans; just because it takes us a while to figure out who we are doesn’t mean we were ever somebody else
  • society is cisnormative, and lies to people, and pretends that trans identities don’t exist and aren’t valid, telling trans people that they are cis over and over again since birth like a mantra, so trans people internalize that and believe it, until the evidence to the contrary piles up so high they can’t deny it anymore. That evidence has been piling up since birth; trans people were never cis people
  • this is erasure of intersex people
  • this is erasure of nonbinary people
  • using these terms incorrectly makes it impossible to use them correctly for nonbinary people who DO identify as having started out as one thing and changed to something else
  • the term you’re looking for is “raised as a man/woman”

"male/female parts/genitalia":

  • again, I’m a man, these are my parts, therefore they are male parts, everybody needs to get the fuck over it
  • Yes, I have breasts and that gives me dysphoria and I want them removed, THANKS FOR REMINDING ME, but they are male breasts
  • Yes I have a vagina. Again, this gives me dysphoria, you are an asshole for reminding me. Again, it is a male vagina since I am a man
  • this is erasure of intersex people
  • this is erasure of nonbinary people
  • Unless you are a doctor my genitals are none of your fucking business
  • If you ARE a doctor, you need to start using medical terminology right now, because you’re a medical professional so I think you can use the word “penis” and “vagina” without melting like the Wicked Witch of the West
  • Doctors using this kind of incorrect terminology are alienating their trans patients and making them less likely to seek medical help due to dysphoria. Trans people already have ENOUGH trouble with getting medical help, don’t fuck it up more
  • the term you’re looking for is "penis/vagina/uterus/genitals" or "testes/ovaries" or (and this one’s easy) "chest"

"female/male hormones":

  • cis men and cis women BOTH have estrogen and progesterone and testosterone. Intersex people have all of these hormones naturally as well
  • there are cis women who have high levels of testosterone and low levels of estrogen and progesterone, and there are cis men with high levels of estrogen and progesterone and low levels of testosterone
  • these hormones are not specific to one sex or another, and DEFINITELY not specific to one gender or another
  • this term is hurtful not only to trans people but also people with pcos, people who are undergoing or have gone through menopause, and other medical causes for variations in hormone levels
  • this is erasure of intersex people
  • this is erasure of nonbinary people
  • the terms you are looking for, shockingly enough, are "estrogen" "progesterone" and “testosterone”

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All cis followers please read this.


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Hi there! Just wondering, do you need to use condoms for anal if you're in a monogamous relationship? (I'm a cis girl and my partner's a cis guy)

It’s generally recommended, because the anus is dirty and prone to tearing.

Why do some periods come early?

There’s a lot of reasons. Stress, change in diet, change in exercise routine, change in environment, change in the people you hang around, change in medications you’re taking, getting on a form of birth control, and so on. It can also come early for absolutely no reason. The body doesn’t work in a uniform way - nothing in nature does.

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